Collective Healing Is Necessary Now

At this time there is so much going on in the world that I had to discuss it with you. The world always has incidents but at this point of 2020 it is particularly turbulent as riots take place across America, in protest to the unlawful killings of numerous black Americans by Police officers. The recent killing of George Floyd, a 46 year old American black male was the final straw and the people have had enough.

There have been hundreds of black men, disproportionately killed, in comparison to other races, by Police in America and there definitely comes a time when enough is enough. Yet there seems to be no clear path about the best way forward. Justice needs to be served and I cannot even begin to imagine the pain and turmoil that these families have been put through. Yet on social media and even at the protests we are seeing more divisions than ever taken in place, whilst it is under the guise of everyone coming together.

People are arguing with each other, and of course this is fuelled by the frustration and confusion that is taking place. People are being almost forced to post about the events that are taking place or they are being called racist, or told that they are siding with the oppressor. People are being bombarded with information and hundreds of images, some informing that you should post to support the movement, some saying you should not post, or that you have post in the wrong place. Others are saying that the whole movement is being funded by the government in order to create division in society. Thousands of people are saying that it is necessary to go out to protest and riot in order to show your support, by any means necessary. Others are saying that the protests are not genuine and there people of other races are “fuelling the fire” so to speak by vandalising and trying to provoke the innocent bystanders.

I am sure that you feel exasperated just by reading all of the above, which leads us to the question of, in all of this how is it helping people to come together or affecting change? As I have said many times in my blog posts the only person that you can change or heal is yourself. People are correct in saying that as a collective we have a voice and if the masses join together then they will be heard. However I would take one step further to say that as a collective we have a responsibility to go within and see which behaviours, beliefs and prejudices we need to change within ourselves in order to make the world a better place.

If a celebrity, famous brand, or normal individual is prompted to post on social media about recent events, and write a seemingly heartfelt caption underneath for their audience, does that make a change? Considering that every person on this planet has a circle of influence on a number of people around them would it not be better for them to have an internal conversation with themselves? So many things in our society are done for show and appearances, without the inner work following. I do not want this post to seem judgemental and of course there are many who do the inner work, but for those who are being shamed and told that they are not doing enough for the movement because they have not posting on their social media is ridiculous. Not everyone lives through social media and contrary to popular belief some people like to do things anonymously, and the actual truth could be that they are doing a lot more behind the scenes, along with going inward and reflecting on how they operate in their lives, and the lessons that they are passing on to their children, family, friends etc.

This moment of self reflection is also not solely for other races. I believe that it is important for every person of every race to look deep within themselves and then take action from that point. If they go deep within and feel as though they want to riot, so be it. But I believe that there are thousands of people who are simply being reactive and following the masses rather than following their inner compass.

Justice needs to be served and things need to change in America and worldwide but our energy is precious and if we feed it into fear, violence, separation, prejudice, judgement and hate then that is what will grow. Energy flows where attention goes and at the moment you can see that millions are focusing on these events and feeding so much of their precious energy into it.

There is no right or wrong way to respond to these incidents, I believe that each person should act in the way that they see fit but we always need to take a moment to think first. We teach our children to be individuals and trust themselves yet they see us being herded along like sheep feeding into whatever comes up in the media. The global pandemic is something that drained the energy of the world basically and as the numbers of fatalities and new cases decrease, there is another ginormous outbreak of violence that demands our attention. Give your attention where you feel that it is needed but make sure that you look after yourself and care for yourself first. You must remain grounded or you will be no good to yourself or others. Help out in ways that you can but you cannot save the world, start with yourself and your circle of influence and then work your way outwards from there.

This level of fear and anxiety is not going to help anyone going forward. I send so much love to the families who have lost someone to such a violent death and it is a beautiful thing to see so many people pull together but there needs to be new ways of pulling together. I remember when I was much younger and there was the brutal beating of Rodney King, this was before social media and everyone having a high tech mobile phone camera and yet that news spread like wild fire and so did the riots. Yet nearly 30 years later worse behaviours are taking place.

There is not a one size fits all answer to this situation but each of us need to dig deep and be accountable for ourselves and ensure that everything we do, we are doing it from the heart.

I would love to hear your thoughts?


Published by C J Anonymous

I have started this blog to share my journey through narcissistic abuse and beyond, and to help others who may have been through similar experiences. I also wanted to share the things that have helped me to heal from codependency. As a mother it became of paramount importance to me to ensure that unconscious generational patterns were not passed down to my children. Narcissism and codependency runs through my family of origin, and whilst I have learned that I cannot change the behaviour of others, I know that I can learn and improve myself daily and show up as an example to my children. There is a wealth of information about narcissism and codependency and yet everyone has a unique story to tell. Other's that shared their stories, helped me to see that I was not alone in a toxic family, or an abusive relationship and I did not have to be the victim, I could reclaim my power and change my life around. My hope is to help others who may feel as though they are the victim, suffer from low self-esteem, or believe that someone else has power over them. It can sometimes be a small quote, or one blog post that resonates with someone and starts their healing journey.

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