Helpful Tips When Healing Emotional Wounds

Throughout our lives, especially during childhood we accumulate emotional wounds that we do not always know how to express or heal. Over the years if these wounds are buried and ignored they create a block and it can be difficult for us to access our true self. Whilst on your healing journey it is important to remember the following:

Small Changes Make make a Large Difference

You do not need to heal 100% in order to improve the levels of joy in your life. Once you set the intention to heal your emotional wounds, you will notice small synchronicities take place that continue to help you on your journey and let you know that you are on the right track. The main thing is to keep going.

Consistency is Important

It has taken a lifetime to form the habits and thought patterns that you have, and changing them will not be over night. You will need to be patient with yourself, and once you identify the areas that you need to work on, commit to being consistent.

You will unearth Uncomfortable Emotions

As you dig deeper and work on yourself you will bring up some emotions that may be uncomfortable because they have been laying dormant. This is perfectly normal and something that you should know beforehand. These emotions can come to the surface in a variety of ways and be accompanied by; feeling particularly emotional, bursting into tears, increased levels of irritability, tension headaches, or feeling fatigued.

The most important thing is that you allow yourself to feel the emotions that arise rather than trying to hide from them or distract yourself. Go within and spend time with yourself knowing that it is much better for your emotions to flow rather than becoming stagnant and stuck in the body.

Healing is an art. It takes time. It takes practice. It takes Love

Finding a Therapist may be Beneficial

Speaking to a therapist can be a great way to work through your emotions, as long as you find a therapist that you feel comfortable with, and who has a deep understanding of what you want to discuss with them. If this option is not available to you, journaling is a powerful tool on your healing journey. Also there are many online communities where you can find people who have been through similar experiences to yourself.

Part of the suffering that people go through can be a feeling of being alone, or like you are the only person who has ever experienced the things that you have. This can also bring up feelings of shame and separation. Whilst we are all unique and have our own perceptions, it can be comforting to speak to people who have been in similar situations and are on a healing journey also. You can find encouragement and even friendship in some of these forums and communities.

Do Not Overwhelm Yourself

By setting yourself unrealistic goals or having prior expectations as to how quickly you should heal, you can open yourself up to feeling demotivated and like a failure. Healing is a process and it is more effective to give yourself an area that you would like to work on and then go with the flow. It is also important to know that healing is not a linear process, there will be areas that you heal in quickly and others that take longer. There will also be times when it feels like you have taken two step forwards and one step back, this is all part of the process.

Emotional healing involves integration of the fragmented parts of our soul to help us, not only understand a past experience, but to resolve it fully, so that it has no emotional response whatsoever.

Dr Issam Kadamani

Facing the trauma that has been stored in the body allows you to live life fully and c=become present, experiencing life as it happens, rather than being triggered and reacting to current situations from a place of previous pain. Healing emotional trauma from the past is beneficial for you and those around you.


Published by C J Anonymous

I have started this blog to share my journey through narcissistic abuse and beyond, and to help others who may have been through similar experiences. I also wanted to share the things that have helped me to heal from codependency. As a mother it became of paramount importance to me to ensure that unconscious generational patterns were not passed down to my children. Narcissism and codependency runs through my family of origin, and whilst I have learned that I cannot change the behaviour of others, I know that I can learn and improve myself daily and show up as an example to my children. There is a wealth of information about narcissism and codependency and yet everyone has a unique story to tell. Other's that shared their stories, helped me to see that I was not alone in a toxic family, or an abusive relationship and I did not have to be the victim, I could reclaim my power and change my life around. My hope is to help others who may feel as though they are the victim, suffer from low self-esteem, or believe that someone else has power over them. It can sometimes be a small quote, or one blog post that resonates with someone and starts their healing journey.

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