Beware of the Narcissists Flying Monkeys

There are so many aspects to be aware of when you are dealing with a narcissist, yet it is also important to know that the narcissist will sometimes enlist the help of others to basically gang up against you, and put you at fault. Generally narcissists do not care if they have to lie and

Let your Boundaries be Strong yet Flexible

In the early stages of your journey, when you may discover that you do not have boundaries or that your boundaries are too weak; it is important to replace them with strong and firm boundaries. But sometimes if we do not continue to develop we can get stuck there. Having firm boundaries in the beginning

Wisdom from ‘The Human Magnet Syndrome’

I read’The Human Magnet Syndrome’ by Ross Rosenberg a few years ago now, and I recently re-read it as I believe books always have more to offer on the second read, and you sometimes find that the book evolves with you and has wisdom to offer you at different stages in your life. This book

Dealing with a Narcissistic Grandmother

Having grown up with a narcissistic grandmother and mother I felt that this would be a great post to write and help others. As you may know there is no real way to get along with narcissists, so to speak, but if you have decided not to go ‘no contact’ with the narcissist in your

Creating Boundaries and Respecting Them

If you have grown up with weak boundaries it can be difficult to put them in place as an adult, because being boundaryless is your normal. Also you may believe that there is no point having boundaries because in your experience people do not respect them. This can also be linked to not speaking our

The Importance of Emotional Healing

Throughout our lives many of us accumulate trauma that goes unaddressed and we just carry it around almost unaware. If you grew up in a home with narcissistic or toxic parents, abuse (physical, verbal, emotional or sexual) or substance abuse then the trauma may be easier for you to trace because there are more overt

Insightful Quotes on Enmeshment within Toxic Families

Following on from my previous post on enmeshment I wanted to follow up by sharing some quotes from books that I have read hopefully you will find them interesting and informative. Enmeshment is a very important topic because it can be very difficult, for the person who was in the enmeshed relationship, to spot and

Codependency and Parenting

Codependency is commonly associated with being emotionally dependent on others. Humans are dependent and social creatures, which is fine, the problems begin when there is an imbalance and we rely on other’s for our sense of self worth and constantly need validation. It is important that recovering codependents are aware of their boundaries and ensure

Break the Pattern of Enmeshment in your Parenting

Enmeshed relationships, also referred to as unboundaried bonding, begin early in a child’s life. The parent can appear to be loving and provides their child with attention and love, but this love comes with many conditions (which would lead some to argue if this can be described as love). This behaviour may be unconscious on

A Great Method for Removing Limiting Beliefs

I recently took part in an amazing hypnosis session which was led by Marisa Peer (video shared at the bottom of this post). If you have not come across any of Marisa Peers work I would highly recommend it, she has bestselling books which can be found on amazon, and also different videos on Youtube.