5 Lessons Learned from Relationships with Narcissists

If you have grown up with narcissistic parents, or met a narcissist later in life then you will know just how devastating the experience can be. It took me many years to heal from narcissistic abuse, and during the process looking for the lessons in each situation helped me to change my perspective. I no

Can a Victim of Abuse Become a Willing Participant

This is quite a provocative subject but I believe that it is necessary to discuss because there is a fine line between being a victim and becoming a conscious participant. I was inspired to write this post after speaking to someone who said that they had been recovering from narcissistic abuse for 10 years, whilst

Daring to Set Boundaries

It is never easy to set boundaries, especially with loved ones, but it is always necessary. If you grew up in a home that did not have boundaries, or your boundaries were not respected this can be the start of the problem, you feeling as though you do not have the right to set boundaries.

Stop People Pleasing and Protect your Boundaries

Growing up with a narcissistic parent means that your boundaries were not respected and you were taught to put others in front of your self. Even though these messages may not have been verbalised, they were planted into your subconscious from a very young age. As an adult it can be difficult to spot these

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

I wanted to share this book with you today as it contains so much insightful information on the relationship between narcissistic mothers and their daughters. In “Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers” Karyl McBride shows an in depth and sympathetic understanding of what daughters of narcissistic mothers go through

Why Am I So Disposable to the Narcissist?

This is a question that many people are left asking themselves after being in a relationship with a narcissist; this is not exclusive to romantic relationships, the same feeling can occur in friendships or with family members. It can be particularly interesting when you want to end the relationship and agonise for months over how

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

I recently read ‘Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents‘ by Lindsay C. Gibson and I think that it is an amazing book. It is both informative and relatable; giving you tips that you can incorporate into your life and interactions with others immediately. If you were raised in a toxic, enmeshed, abusive or narcissistic family,

Changes to Expect when Becoming Your Authentic Self

I believe that becoming your authentic self is one of our main reasons for being on this planet. Know and truly loving yourself is the best foundation to have, and then from that basis the rest of your life can be built. For most people we were not able to be our authentic self from

Beware of the Narcissists Flying Monkeys

There are so many aspects to be aware of when you are dealing with a narcissist, yet it is also important to know that the narcissist will sometimes enlist the help of others to basically gang up against you, and put you at fault. Generally narcissists do not care if they have to lie and

Creating Boundaries and Respecting Them

If you have grown up with weak boundaries it can be difficult to put them in place as an adult, because being boundaryless is your normal. Also you may believe that there is no point having boundaries because in your experience people do not respect them. This can also be linked to not speaking our