5 Lessons Learned from Relationships with Narcissists

If you have grown up with narcissistic parents, or met a narcissist later in life then you will know just how devastating the experience can be. It took me many years to heal from narcissistic abuse, and during the process looking for the lessons in each situation helped me to change my perspective. I no

Can a Victim of Abuse Become a Willing Participant

This is quite a provocative subject but I believe that it is necessary to discuss because there is a fine line between being a victim and becoming a conscious participant. I was inspired to write this post after speaking to someone who said that they had been recovering from narcissistic abuse for 10 years, whilst

Stop People Pleasing and Protect your Boundaries

Growing up with a narcissistic parent means that your boundaries were not respected and you were taught to put others in front of your self. Even though these messages may not have been verbalised, they were planted into your subconscious from a very young age. As an adult it can be difficult to spot these

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

I wanted to share this book with you today as it contains so much insightful information on the relationship between narcissistic mothers and their daughters. In “Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers” Karyl McBride shows an in depth and sympathetic understanding of what daughters of narcissistic mothers go through

Why Am I So Disposable to the Narcissist?

This is a question that many people are left asking themselves after being in a relationship with a narcissist; this is not exclusive to romantic relationships, the same feeling can occur in friendships or with family members. It can be particularly interesting when you want to end the relationship and agonise for months over how

Lockdown With a Narcissist

Living with a narcissist is challenging and painful. I would compare it to being in the boxing ring with an invisible enemy. You love your partner and do your best to please them yet you keep getting blind sided by blows that you could not see coming. This is due to the fact that the

Beware of the Narcissists Flying Monkeys

There are so many aspects to be aware of when you are dealing with a narcissist, yet it is also important to know that the narcissist will sometimes enlist the help of others to basically gang up against you, and put you at fault. Generally narcissists do not care if they have to lie and

A Proud Moment…

I am so happy to share with you guys that I finally finished writing my book today! I am particularly happy because starting projects is something that I do easily and very often, but actually seeing a project through to the end is rare. I usually make excuses or get bored and move onto something

A Different Perspective

Thank you for visiting my blog. I wanted to write because I discovered many years ago that I had been raised in a narcissistic family. I know that narcissism is a term that has become commonly used in our society and often brings to mind someone who is vain and quite obsessed with themselves, however