Why Trusting Yourself can be So Hard

“Just trust yorself” is a suggestion that I am sure many of us have been told over the years and yet it is one of the hardest things to do. It is true that deep down we all know what to do in any given situation, and the answers are always inside of us, yet

5 Lessons Learned from Relationships with Narcissists

If you have grown up with narcissistic parents, or met a narcissist later in life then you will know just how devastating the experience can be. It took me many years to heal from narcissistic abuse, and during the process looking for the lessons in each situation helped me to change my perspective. I no

Can a Victim of Abuse Become a Willing Participant

This is quite a provocative subject but I believe that it is necessary to discuss because there is a fine line between being a victim and becoming a conscious participant. I was inspired to write this post after speaking to someone who said that they had been recovering from narcissistic abuse for 10 years, whilst

Daring to Set Boundaries

It is never easy to set boundaries, especially with loved ones, but it is always necessary. If you grew up in a home that did not have boundaries, or your boundaries were not respected this can be the start of the problem, you feeling as though you do not have the right to set boundaries.

Why You Should Stop Speaking to People out of Obligation.

We have heard many times that the experiences that take place in our lives from the ages of 0-7 can have a profound effect on the adult that we become, but we sometimes forget the extent of that. If you grew up in a home that was enmeshed, had weak boundaries, or your boundaries and

5 Reasons People Remain in Toxic Relationships

There are many reasons that people remain in toxic relationships, however there are some key themes that run through the reasons. Leaving a relationship is never easy and when you add unhealthy boundaries, enmeshment or abuse it becomes even more complicated. The 5 reasons are listed below: You are waiting for the good times to

Narcissistic Mothers and their Adult Daughters

Being raised by a narcissistic mother is an experience that often changes the whole course of your life. That is not to say that you cannot get your life back on track, but the narcissist will do their best to squash you into the role that they have carved out for you during childhood, and

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

I recently read ‘Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents‘ by Lindsay C. Gibson and I think that it is an amazing book. It is both informative and relatable; giving you tips that you can incorporate into your life and interactions with others immediately. If you were raised in a toxic, enmeshed, abusive or narcissistic family,

Changes to Expect when Becoming Your Authentic Self

I believe that becoming your authentic self is one of our main reasons for being on this planet. Know and truly loving yourself is the best foundation to have, and then from that basis the rest of your life can be built. For most people we were not able to be our authentic self from

Beware of the Narcissists Flying Monkeys

There are so many aspects to be aware of when you are dealing with a narcissist, yet it is also important to know that the narcissist will sometimes enlist the help of others to basically gang up against you, and put you at fault. Generally narcissists do not care if they have to lie and