Why You Should Stop Speaking to People out of Obligation.

We have heard many times that the experiences that take place in our lives from the ages of 0-7 can have a profound effect on the adult that we become, but we sometimes forget the extent of that. If you grew up in a home that was enmeshed, had weak boundaries, or your boundaries and

Narcissistic Mothers and their Adult Daughters

Being raised by a narcissistic mother is an experience that often changes the whole course of your life. That is not to say that you cannot get your life back on track, but the narcissist will do their best to squash you into the role that they have carved out for you during childhood, and

Changes to Expect when Becoming Your Authentic Self

I believe that becoming your authentic self is one of our main reasons for being on this planet. Know and truly loving yourself is the best foundation to have, and then from that basis the rest of your life can be built. For most people we were not able to be our authentic self from

Dealing with a Narcissistic Grandmother

Having grown up with a narcissistic grandmother and mother I felt that this would be a great post to write and help others. As you may know there is no real way to get along with narcissists, so to speak, but if you have decided not to go ‘no contact’ with the narcissist in your

Creating Boundaries and Respecting Them

If you have grown up with weak boundaries it can be difficult to put them in place as an adult, because being boundaryless is your normal. Also you may believe that there is no point having boundaries because in your experience people do not respect them. This can also be linked to not speaking our

The Importance of Emotional Healing

Throughout our lives many of us accumulate trauma that goes unaddressed and we just carry it around almost unaware. If you grew up in a home with narcissistic or toxic parents, abuse (physical, verbal, emotional or sexual) or substance abuse then the trauma may be easier for you to trace because there are more overt

Codependency and Parenting

Codependency is commonly associated with being emotionally dependent on others. Humans are dependent and social creatures, which is fine, the problems begin when there is an imbalance and we rely on other’s for our sense of self worth and constantly need validation. It is important that recovering codependents are aware of their boundaries and ensure