Why Trusting Yourself can be So Hard

“Just trust yorself” is a suggestion that I am sure many of us have been told over the years and yet it is one of the hardest things to do. It is true that deep down we all know what to do in any given situation, and the answers are always inside of us, yet

Stop Feeling Like You Need Permission to Feel Your Feelings-

It can be so easy to ignore your feelings, and feel as though you are not justified in having them unless there is someone else who agrees with you. As we are social creatures it is understandable that if we have a problem we may want to talk it through with someone, but this becomes

Lockdown With a Narcissist

Living with a narcissist is challenging and painful. I would compare it to being in the boxing ring with an invisible enemy. You love your partner and do your best to please them yet you keep getting blind sided by blows that you could not see coming. This is due to the fact that the

Helpful Tips When Healing Emotional Wounds

Throughout our lives, especially during childhood we accumulate emotional wounds that we do not always know how to express or heal. Over the years if these wounds are buried and ignored they create a block and it can be difficult for us to access our true self. Whilst on your healing journey it is important

Changes to Expect when Becoming Your Authentic Self

I believe that becoming your authentic self is one of our main reasons for being on this planet. Know and truly loving yourself is the best foundation to have, and then from that basis the rest of your life can be built. For most people we were not able to be our authentic self from

Creating Boundaries and Respecting Them

If you have grown up with weak boundaries it can be difficult to put them in place as an adult, because being boundaryless is your normal. Also you may believe that there is no point having boundaries because in your experience people do not respect them. This can also be linked to not speaking our

Insightful Quotes on Enmeshment within Toxic Families

Following on from my previous post on enmeshment I wanted to follow up by sharing some quotes from books that I have read hopefully you will find them interesting and informative. Enmeshment is a very important topic because it can be very difficult, for the person who was in the enmeshed relationship, to spot and

Codependency and Parenting

Codependency is commonly associated with being emotionally dependent on others. Humans are dependent and social creatures, which is fine, the problems begin when there is an imbalance and we rely on other’s for our sense of self worth and constantly need validation. It is important that recovering codependents are aware of their boundaries and ensure

You are 50% of Every Relationship

It is commonly said that relationships should be 50/50, two people coming together and making a whole. What we sometimes need to clarify though is that people should feel ‘whole’ within themselves before entering a partnership. Codependents often lack self love and have low self esteem, and searching for a relationship before doing the necessary