5 Reasons People Remain in Toxic Relationships

There are many reasons that people remain in toxic relationships, however there are some key themes that run through the reasons. Leaving a relationship is never easy and when you add unhealthy boundaries, enmeshment or abuse it becomes even more complicated. The 5 reasons are listed below: You are waiting for the good times to

Stop People Pleasing and Protect your Boundaries

Growing up with a narcissistic parent means that your boundaries were not respected and you were taught to put others in front of your self. Even though these messages may not have been verbalised, they were planted into your subconscious from a very young age. As an adult it can be difficult to spot these

Narcissistic Mothers and their Adult Daughters

Being raised by a narcissistic mother is an experience that often changes the whole course of your life. That is not to say that you cannot get your life back on track, but the narcissist will do their best to squash you into the role that they have carved out for you during childhood, and

Why Am I So Disposable to the Narcissist?

This is a question that many people are left asking themselves after being in a relationship with a narcissist; this is not exclusive to romantic relationships, the same feeling can occur in friendships or with family members. It can be particularly interesting when you want to end the relationship and agonise for months over how

Let your Boundaries be Strong yet Flexible

In the early stages of your journey, when you may discover that you do not have boundaries or that your boundaries are too weak; it is important to replace them with strong and firm boundaries. But sometimes if we do not continue to develop we can get stuck there. Having firm boundaries in the beginning

Dealing with a Narcissistic Grandmother

Having grown up with a narcissistic grandmother and mother I felt that this would be a great post to write and help others. As you may know there is no real way to get along with narcissists, so to speak, but if you have decided not to go ‘no contact’ with the narcissist in your

You are 50% of Every Relationship

It is commonly said that relationships should be 50/50, two people coming together and making a whole. What we sometimes need to clarify though is that people should feel ‘whole’ within themselves before entering a partnership. Codependents often lack self love and have low self esteem, and searching for a relationship before doing the necessary