Why Trusting Yourself can be So Hard

“Just trust yorself” is a suggestion that I am sure many of us have been told over the years and yet it is one of the hardest things to do. It is true that deep down we all know what to do in any given situation, and the answers are always inside of us, yet

Stop People Pleasing and Protect your Boundaries

Growing up with a narcissistic parent means that your boundaries were not respected and you were taught to put others in front of your self. Even though these messages may not have been verbalised, they were planted into your subconscious from a very young age. As an adult it can be difficult to spot these

Let your Boundaries be Strong yet Flexible

In the early stages of your journey, when you may discover that you do not have boundaries or that your boundaries are too weak; it is important to replace them with strong and firm boundaries. But sometimes if we do not continue to develop we can get stuck there. Having firm boundaries in the beginning

Wisdom from ‘The Human Magnet Syndrome’

I read’The Human Magnet Syndrome’ by Ross Rosenberg a few years ago now, and I recently re-read it as I believe books always have more to offer on the second read, and you sometimes find that the book evolves with you and has wisdom to offer you at different stages in your life. This book

Creating Boundaries and Respecting Them

If you have grown up with weak boundaries it can be difficult to put them in place as an adult, because being boundaryless is your normal. Also you may believe that there is no point having boundaries because in your experience people do not respect them. This can also be linked to not speaking our

You are 50% of Every Relationship

It is commonly said that relationships should be 50/50, two people coming together and making a whole. What we sometimes need to clarify though is that people should feel ‘whole’ within themselves before entering a partnership. Codependents often lack self love and have low self esteem, and searching for a relationship before doing the necessary

Revisiting “Codependent No More”

A few years ago I read a book that was really instrumental in helping me to understand codependency and the effect that it had on my life, and also the lives of those around me. The book was called ‘Codependent No More’ by Melody Beattie and she really gives a thorough explanation of her understanding